Things that they fear a foreign woman would not agree to do (e.g.
stay home, take care of the kids, always pour new alcohol into his empty glass etc.).
For foreign women it’s a completely different story.
Japanese men seem to expect certain things from a woman.
And at the same time there’s only a very tiny number of foreign (read: non-Asian) women with Japanese men next to them. Maybe that’s a secret we’ll never quite get, but there are many theories!
A lot of Japanese women want a guy that tells them several times a day how much he loves them.
The man only gets a small allowance every week or month and needs to ask his wife for permission if he wants to spend any more of his own hard-earned money!
As a result, dating in Japan is usually quite easy for men.
You’ll start to feel completely unattractive and ignored at times.
Of course, you get a lot of attention and there’s all this staring, but it’s not because anybody is flirting with you … It might be a different story in bigger cities such as Tokyo and Osaka with a more international community, but in smaller cities and in the countryside with more traditional ideals it can be very difficult for foreign women.
It might be a bit more difficult if you’re looking for a serious relationship as there are those women I mentioned earlier who either want you as “exotic accessory” or just want your DNA to create a cute “half-child”.
All in all, it is easy for a Western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan.